Let it Out Indianapolis

false friends

We all have them- false friends. These are the 'friends' that only call you when they want/need something. They are self-absorbed and selfish in life and expect you to jump when they call...but they act really nice and sweet to get you to do whatever it is they want at the time. They are hard to see at first because you get blinded by their sweetness/niceness in the beginning of the friendship. Case in point, I 'had' a friend who was this way, but I over-looked her 'bad' traits because her kids and mine played together a lot. Even though there were things that she did I didn't agree with or things in her past I didn't condone I still became friends with her, actually great friends. Of course one of the things she would do is dump her kids on me to watch whenever something came up that she wanted to do without the kids. I didn't judge her for these traits. I accepted her for who she was. So one night we watched a movie together, kids and all, and a few days later I go over to her house and she acts like I've done something bad to her. She finally decides to tell me that the other night when we were over at her house watching the movie she said her daughter told her that my son told her a dirty word and that her daughter went on the internet and was looking it up and got caught looking up the dirty word. While she is telling me this her OWN son is standing there and says, "it was in the movie we were watching that said the bad word." She immediately cuts him off and says that's not what happened. Her son's story sounds more plausible than my son just going up to her daughter, who by the way is 2 years older than my son, and telling her a bad word. So I decide to check out her son's story and I re-rented the movie and sure enough in the movie the main character yells out this 'dirty' word. And to top off the story the main character's name in the movie is the exact same name as my son's name. So I tell my 'friend' about the movie and the character saying it and his name and my 'friend' says she doesn't want to get into the he said/she said of the matter and that we are better off going our separate ways as friends. I wasted 4 years of babysitting her kids and helping her clean her house and helping her with her work and this is what she ends our friendship over? Lesson to learn from this rant? If you know of a friend like this where they never call you to just see how you are doing or when they call the call always seems to come back to them and what they need- don't be fooled by these people! Don't be swayed by their 'sneaky ways'. Just don't bother with them because they will always be self-absorbed and won't ever change.